Not today

pexels-photo-266011.jpegMy youngest daughter is soon to be 6 years old. I just can’t believe it. It seems like just the other day, I was was holding her 7 pound 11 ounce body in my arms. My husband and I will never forget that weight because it’s 7/11, just like the store.

She has been talking about this day for months. The day she finally gets her ears pierced. Her older sisters have had their ears pierced for years. She just wasn’t ready…until now. She had heard many of her friends talk about their experiences.  Some had pain..some cried..some did just fine. She declares that she is the only girl in her class without pierced ears, so it must be done.

She could hardly sit still through our meal because she new afterward, we would finally go get her ears pierced. I spent some time on the phone today checking prices and talking with friends. Walmart had the best prices in town, so that’s where we decided to go. I think earrings are a frugal thing. For very little money, you can add a little style to your wardrobe and earrings take up only a small amount of space. Also, I can’t think of many people that don’t have earrings laying around that they wouldn’t mind passing along. Just put the word out!

I took this picture of her ear while her daddy paid for a cute pair of birthstone earrings that she had picked out. My daughter is infatuated with jewels, so it was no surprise that she picked the most sparkling ones they had.


The lady from the jewelry counter carefully drew a small dot on her ear, after cleaning them well, to indicate where the little, sparkly, green jewel would soon go. Thats when I saw it, my little girl’s bright blue eyes were welled up with tears. I should have known by the way she wouldn’t turn around fully in the seat, that she was becoming anxious.


I got down on one knee and tried to think of the best mommy words I could come up with. I tried to convince her that it wasn’t going to be as bad as she thought and that she could do this. The more of those best mommy words I said, the worse she cried. It was over. The jewelry counter lady refunded our money and methodically repackaged the sparkly green earrings to put them back in the drawer for the next customer, as if she had done this many times before. Then the lady said, ” I have done this many times before.” – thank you so much, we feel so much better now🙄.


Her daddy decided to buy her a pretty necklace with her first initial on it instead. She liked it okay, but was still visibly upset. She got in the car and said, “I wasn’t very brave”. I said, “No, you were not very brave but it’s because you aren’t supposed to be. You aren’t ready yet, when you are ready, you will be brave. Walmart is open 24 hours a day so when you decide you are ready, they will be ready for you.” She seemed content for the moment. I put the pretty initial necklace around her neck and said, ” For now, you can wear necklaces”. She said, “but I want to be an earring girl”. So I said, ” And when you are ready, you will be, just not today.


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